#1
The Four Agreements
Price: $11.00
4.7/5
(118,923 reviews)
(118,923 reviews)
What Customers Say:
-
I’m Me MeThis is not “new age” self help book! This book is based on modern linguistic theory and philosophical precepts.I should start off by stating my background. I am an undergrad student of philosophy and linguistics, a branch of the humanities. I also deeply love this series of books because of its obviousness and simplicity. It has personally helped me triumph over many, many challenges. This is why I decided to write a review here.There is a huge tradition of skepticism in linguistics, especially about how language is used in various cultures to create belief systems. A belief system is basically a set of instructions inside your brain based on language. These instructions help you navigate the stressful world around you so you can survive. We are psychologically wired to think our belief systems are accurate and experience deep stress if we find them to be inaccurate.The trouble is, our belief systems are ALWAYS inaccurate. Yes, I used the word “always” for a reason.Without going deeply into the study of philosophy and linguistics, I will give you an overview here:Philosophy – When you study philosophy, you study belief systems about how the world works and explore important questions like “is there a God?” or “What is consciousness.” You may not be surprised to find out that philosophy majors have not come up with answers to these questions because there is always a case where we are going to be wrong or have a counter argument. Much of the study of philosophy is the collection of vocabulary words to describe beliefs. They even have a mathematical component called propositional logic, where one takes sentences and reduces them to symbols and creates “proofs” but even prop-logic is under fire from academics for its complete inability to predict anything. In other words, it isn’t the answer either.Linguistics – When you study words and language, you realize that all our beliefs are based on language and this language can never “touch reality” in that language is just an arbitrary description of reality, posing as real. I believe Miguel Ruiz must have taken a linguistics course as well–as his first agreement attests to the power of language. The four agreements pulls heavily from Saussure and Derrida. Both Saussure and Derrida (and many, many others) did work on how we form ideas in our heads based on language. The gist is this: we have something called a “symbol” in our brain which is composed of two parts: the word and the visual representation of the object (look up semiotics for further detail). These symbols are in our mind and work together to form meaning, then belief. The unfortunate thing is that they are entirely made up. It isn’t real. Our ideas of it aren’t real.If you really want a deeper understanding on how linguistics has saturated our belief systems I recommend reading some of their academic essays or get Rivkin and Ryan’s literary theory books. They are excellent and will take you further down the rabbit hole. Most of the essays are dense but worth the effort!To simplify: scientists and academics in the millions have tried and tried and tried to find “the true belief” for thousands, maybe tens of thousands of years and we have not yet arrived at any truth. Because of domestication, we think other people have it, but they don’t! “Truth” is defined as that which has the most predictive power. So far, mathematics, geometry, and physics has the most predictive power. Our belief systems simply do not.So any beliefs about yourself can be true and they can also be false. We can’t know. So why not pick something positive? If no one knows anything, then how can you even know anything?But you don’t need to study this yourself. All you have to do is think back to your past self, let’s say ten years ago. Did that person have a belief system that you now consider to be faulty? How is that possible? What about your future self? Will that person believe you have a faulty belief system? Probably! How is this possible? How can you be SO WRONG? Is it because you “haven’t learned?” I highly doubt it!But we have to be right! We ARE RIGHT! At least we think we might be . . . maybe?The need to be right is so ingrained within us that we create a huge drama when someone contradicts our beliefs. We end relationships over it! We storm out! We write angry twitter updates.HOW THIS BOOK HAS PERSONALLY HELPED ME:- No one person’s opinion will ever again have the power to limit what I can do, even if this person is an authority figure- No one group’s opinion will ever again have the power to limit what I can do- No one has a clear idea of who or what I am, not even me!- When people talk, they are telling stories. I don’t have to argue. I don’t have to fight. I simply have to listen. WOW!- I cannot comprehend another person’s dream. I can’t mind read. I can’t assume. I know nothing of their inner workings.- Even scary, aggressive people are just telling stories.- I no longer have to feel ashamed about who I am or what I’ve done or where I’m going. It’s not my job to assign a story to my life, or a judgment.- I no longer have to pretend to be something or hustle to gain love. I just need to love who is willing to love back. It’s so simple.- I take all gurus, religions, indictments and gossip with quite a high level of benevolent skepticism, which allows me to be free from the fear that goes along with these stories.- I don’t take myself as seriously as I used to.Probably the most valuable of all . . .- I have a deep compassion for all people. We are all just stuck here together, trying our hardest and doing our best. I don’t have to hate someone because their best wasn’t up to some story I tell myself. I don’t’ have to insist they believe in my story. I can just smile and listen and do what I can.
-
Michelle The BellTransformational Simplicity {A Book You’ll Revisit for Life}I’ve read The Four Agreements multiple times over the years, and every time I pick it up, it feels like I’m seeing something new, not because the book changed, but because I did.Don Miguel Ruiz takes profound spiritual wisdom and distills it into four simple, actionable principles:1️⃣ Be impeccable with your word.2️⃣ Don’t take anything personally.3️⃣ Don’t make assumptions.4️⃣ Always do your best.Each chapter breaks down how these agreements can untangle you from unnecessary stress, self-judgment, and emotional conflict. What I love most is how practical it is. You don’t need to be spiritual or familiar with Toltec philosophy to benefit. It’s written in clear, relatable language.I’ve highlighted dozens of passages, but one that always sticks with me is about freeing yourself from the opinions of others. It’s been life-changing for relationships and self-confidence.???? Helpful Tip: If you enjoy journaling or personal growth work, read one agreement per week and reflect daily on how it shows up in your thoughts and interactions. That approach helped me internalize it far beyond the first read.The book is short (you can finish it in a day or two), but its lessons last a lifetime. Whether you’re on a journey of healing, growth, or simply want more peace, this book is one to keep on your nightstand and to gift often
-
Rickey Jones JrAwesome Read, Thankful for the PerspectiveGreat book and eye opening book that allowed me to realize the power of influence and going through life receiving and believing as I saw, was taught, was raised to believe and through the influence of others. A process termed domestication! Wow!In order to be the master of my life having something worth submitting to God I must dream of a world, life and future that aligns with what I believe, what I think and what i desire to see in my life! The four agreements give me a framework of what’s necessary if I want to do so!
-
EmmaIt’s like I downloaded an important piece of software into my lifeThis book resonates with me and creates clarity on how to go about living the way I know I’m ment to, on a gut level. I’ve felt an ease of life and gratitude since I started this book. I will say the properties of this book are not new to me. Meditating on these same thoughts have been a constant in my family for years. This book just seems to put them into words and lock them in my mind.
The Four Agreements is one of the best-selling products with 118923 reviews and a 4.7/5 star rating on Amazon.
Current Price: $11






